Parenting Children for a Life of Confidence - the book
Written by Rachel Turner and published in 2015, Parenting Children for a Life of Confidence explores how we can help our children to discover a healthy core of confidence, offering practical wisdom and suggestions for nurturing this in daily life.
The world has a formula for confidence. It goes like this: you are amazing and perfect, just the way you are. People should love and accept you; if they don't, that's their problem.
The Christian community partners with this. We are told in church that God made us perfect and precious, that we are unique and wonderful, like a gemstone in his eyes, worthy of so much.
We think that if our children could just believe those statements deep in their hearts, then they would be confident. If they could just discover who they are and express it well, then they would have joy. If they could just live those beliefs, then they would be able to weather the storms in the world.
The problem is that it doesn't seem to be working...
From the book
I don’t think Moses successfully led a nation because he strongly believed in his unique talents.
I don’t think Samuel was confident because he looked in the mirror and truly believed, ‘I am special. I am unique. I am perfect just the way I am.’
I don’t think Paul sang in prison with joy because he loved expressing his true inner self and had a great singing voice.
I don’t think Mary was bold, after hearing from the angel that she was to be the mother of the Son of God because she daily reminded herself, ‘I am awesome!’
Do you think their confidence came from their own opinions of themselves? Of course not. So, since we hold up these people in scripture as some of the most confident, effective, peaceful champions of faith and life, we need to ask ourselves: what was their secret?
Their core of confidence was different. Their core of confidence was in God, and not in themselves.
Publisher: The Bible Reading Fellowship